Part of what I love most about the brilliant women I work with is that they are passionate, driven beings who aren’t afraid to dig in, become deeply introspective, embrace self-awareness, and dream big! The flip side of all this is that these same brilliant women have a tendency to tackle their dream/vision like they tackle their daily To-Do list… like something they must conquer and complete. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. ~ Harriet Tubman
If you’re visioning the BIG, BOLD, and BRAVE way, the dream you’ve created may seem too juicy, too wonderful, and incredibly unrealistic. Where do you go from there?
Let’s take Janelle. After some powerful deep dive coaching sessions, she knows that she really wants to: continue to work in the health and wellness field, but would like to exponentially increase her salary and decrease her work week to three days a week, rather than the more than full-time schedule she has now. She wants to have time for her husband and for the family she hopes to have one day. She’d like to rekindle her love of painting and ideally she’d like to keep her home in the beautiful mountains of Colorado and have a second home closer to extended family in Tennessee.
This vision did not come easily to Janelle. It took some time to fan the flame of desire and encourage her to dream in a bigger way. Most of us would feel guilty for allowing ourselves to entertain the thought of working less, increasing our salary, and having two homes.
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. ~ T. S. Eliot
As a coach, my role wasn’t to convince Janelle to tackle and conquer her vision like it was an item on her To-Do list of life.
My role as her coach was to fill her in on a few secrets about vision.
It’s a powerful message from your soul
A message about something that is longing to be discovered and created. It’s a meaningful message about the experiences and components of your life that are missing. A message about what you value most and what will bring you happiness and a feeling of fulfillment.
It can be interpreted literally or in metaphor form
For example, we would explore Janelle’s desire to live in two different states, but we’d also dive deeper, to unearth what she’s really longing for there. When we do, we’d find that Janelle’s deepest desire is to fully express two different sides of herself. The artist who is inspired by the mountains of Colorado, and the caring family woman who is best expressed in Tennessee.
We might then brainstorm 20 ways she could manifest a deeper expression of these parts. Janelle would then choose those that felt the most resonant, in alignment with her core values, and manageable. Vision acts as symbolism to be recognized and explored in our lives
It’s your guide
It’s an ideal. It’s vision. Then there’s life: messy, imperfect, resource-constrained, and ego-filled. Life as a human being is about moving between these two places — the dream, the vision, the ideal as it exists within us, and the messiness of the world we live in.
That’s why a vision serves as a guide — not as an action plan to execute.
What matters most is that we are moving toward our vision. That we allow our dreams to be a powerful guide in our lives.
3 Key Take Aways
- Intentional action taken from that powerful guiding place will pull us closer to our vision.
- A vision is not a to do list. A vision is a message. A vision speaks in metaphor.
- Your vision is your guide, not your action plan.
I encourage you to sit back, sink in, and dream BIG! Allow yourself to create a vision that feels juicy, uncomfortable, and seems incredibly unrealistic!
There’s such great learning and growing in dreaming and if you need help just contact me. I’d be happy to be your guide. In the meantime, post your vision in the comments section so the BIG BOLD & BRAVE women in your tribe can support you.